Most bad fits do not start with one dramatic failure. They start with small repeats: the same instruction given again, the same task done the old way, the same question asked after it was already answered. This guide shows you how to count those repeats so you see the problem in the first two or three weeks, while a change is still easy to make.
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Step 1: Start the repeat log on the first shift
Use one sheet with three columns: what was asked or missed, who was asked, and whether the next shift fixed it. Keep the sheet in the house binder, not in your head.
Write here: Instruction to track: ______________________
Step 2: Pick the three instructions that matter most
Choose the three things that would cause real trouble if missed, such as the door routine, the call-back number, and the meal schedule. Write each one as a single plain sentence. A few repeats on minor matters in the first week are normal. Repeats on these three are the signal.
Write here: 1. ______ 2. ______ 3. ______
Step 3: Count the repeats at the end of each week
Count how many times each of the three instructions had to be given again, and write the total. A count that falls from week to week means the handoff is working. A count that stays flat or rises means it is not.
Write here: Week 1 repeats: ____ Week 2 repeats: ____ Week 3 repeats: ____
Step 4: Put every correction in writing
When a repeat happens after you have already corrected it, send the caregiver or the agency a short written note: the instruction, what happened, and what you need changed. Ask for a written reply that says what will be done differently. A verbal promise is hard to check later.
Step 5: Set your decision rule before you need it
Choose the rule now, while you are calm. For example: if the same instruction repeats after a written correction, you ask for a different caregiver. Write your rule here: ______________________
What to listen for
A good answer names a specific change, such as a new line on the shift sheet or a second check at arrival. A weak answer says they will be more careful, with nothing specific attached.
Signs to walk away
Ask for a replacement, or stop the search and reconsider the provider, if you see any of these: the same instruction missed after a written correction, no written reply to your note, a repeat that is blamed on you every time, or missed shifts with no notice. For the wider set of steps, see Start Here: Five Steps to Hiring.